I made this video in 2017 called: “How to love & understand someone who has bipolar disorder” At 70,000 views, it has helped countless people learn how to support their family member, friend or significant other who has bipolar!
Through the years, I’ve responded to hundreds of DMs/emails asking me for specific advice on this. Typically, it involves someone dating/married to a bipolar person who is refusing treatment. My response is always similar. Here is a recent comment I got on the video asking a question I’ve gotten A LOT! Below is the response I give in my 1-on-1 messages 💛
I re-watched this recently and had a similar reaction as you, I was shocked how intense and complex it is. I filmed this when I was manic and newly diagnosed, so I would make a different video now, 4 years later.
That being said, there are a lot of truths to what I said. Here is how to understand them:
3. It will get better! The episodes and constant changing of meds is temporary. When bipolar first comes out, it is complete chaos. It is overwhelming for the bipolar person to process. Getting on the right meds could take many months, even up to a year. But this will NOT be forever. The “chaos stage” for me lasted a year and a half. I was not in a romantic relationship at the time, which looking back I’m grateful for. I would NOT have wanted to put that much pain and trauma on a romantic partner. Once the bipolar person is on the right meds and has gone to enough therapy and cried enough, it will be extremely chill. I forget I’m bipolar all the time, because I just take my meds at night and that’s it. I don’t have strong symptoms or episodes anymore.